Friday, August 13, 2010

Its GREY for me!

This is one topic, when you talk about, people will take an extra interest, some pretending to ignore it though. For me this topic is as normal as my other posts, and without ignoring I do take a special interest in this topic, simply bcoz people get all judgmental and trapped in their own POV, the topic being PRE – MARITAL SEX. I read many articles about this and spoke to various people, this is what some said.

-Pre-marital sex is just coined in such a way that it has become a social taboo, but i believe its one of the most important ways of showing your love.

-Sex is not considered a sin until u let that thought creep into ur mind ,or unless u use precautionary measure and do not catch STDs. Ifeel that sex is more for the adults who have the maturity level rather than the innocent and irrational who just wanna try things out for the heck of it
-we are said to be a creation of GOD, When God creates something, He creates it with purpose and design. The Genesis account of creation makes it clear that God's creation is “good”.thus sex is also his creation for pleasure. I myself have experienced sex & found that as a soul meeting ceremony. Its the pure unificaton of two loving heart to express each other.

-Ok may be I sound a lil old fashioned but ya I dont and would never encourage pre marital sex. Not becoz I think its a taboo but I think sex is really sacred which should completely be after marriage. Foreplay to an extent is ok. There should be something you will always have to look forward to have after marriage.

-Sex is a very strong biological need. Although, I feel it's morally wrong.But, then each to his own. However, sex after marriage has a purpose .It’s a medium of expressing love between couples.

-premarital sex is individual based. There is nothing wrong if the people involved are willingly doing it. Only thing they must be aware of the consequences.

-We are a society that thrives on sex so why would that not extend to people having sex before marriage. Many people go through two or three marriages in a lifetime so they have definitely had sex before the second and/or third marriage

-Why should sex before marriage be a sin, be wrong? Its something God endowed us with. It doesn't involve killing, or hurting someone.

This is what I have to say -

If sex is sin according to a religion, so is drinking and smoking and eating meat.

There are people who marry so that they can have free sex.

There are people who end marriages because they are not satisfied with their sex life

What about polygamy?

Psychology says, that after a certain age, it becomes a need for an individual to have sex, or else it will affect him and his lifestyle in negative way and what if the person isn’t ready for marriage?

Then again, we talk for our convenience, that foreplay is fine but not sex. Now I want to know-What exactly is foreplay? Where is the line drawn here? Its as good as saying, I dint murder the person, I half-killed him!

People claiming to be modern, end up being judgemental regarding people losing their virginity before marriage? What has sex to do with a good person or bad person?

Is marriage a license for sex? And what if that marriage doesn’t work? Do you get another license or you don’t have sex at all for the rest of your life?

So what about watching hardcore porn movies and lusting over those unknown people? Is that fine? I mean if you not indulging into a sin, is watching sin onscreen acceptable?

There are too many questions? And too many answers for each question? And to get easy way out, people make opinions and judgements. And then the confusion surrounds you when you are in a situation, where you have no option but change your opinion, or unknowingly you end up going against your own opinion.

Just widen your horizon, not to indulge into unaccepted pleasures, giving it a name of wide horizon, but to understand life better.

I have nothing against people with either of the opinions,

For me life isn’t about pre/post marital sex.

For me life isn’t as clear as white or black.

For me its GREY and I have to see how much of black and white I mix to get that perfect shade!



  1. Fairly interesting read. Quite liked it. And I share your sentiments.